It depends on your personal and cultural point of view: Success is often defined as financial independence, especially in the Western world. Means: If you earn well, you are successful.
How happy one is in the process falls under the table. Means: Someone can earn well, but work so much overtime that he is on the verge of burnout. Whether this is success, everyone must evaluate for themselves.
How high is your burn-out risk?
There are also other views that are less limited in perspective. Success is defined here by the fulfillment of the individual’s vision of life. What satisfies one? This can be: having a solid job and a roof over one’s head, becoming a better version of oneself every year, earning a lot of money, helping other people and the environment, discovering one’s personal skills and earning a living with them (turning a hobby into a profession), a lifetime of learning (a profession in research), and so on.
In short: On the one hand, the definition of success depends on the personal and cultural environment. Let’s call it the “official” version. And on the other hand, on how far one is willing to question these basic ways of thinking and to form one’s own idea. Let’s call it the “individual” definition of success.
What does success mean in your job and in your partnership?
Especially in the job, factors like belonging, performance and power play a role in the idea of success. But whether you are successful on the job depends again on the definition of the term. Basically, the following factors play a much more important role in whether one is successful on the job and also privately in a partnership: a stable self-esteem and a positive self-image.
Those who constantly doubt themselves or have no opinion of their own lack the will to push through their idea of a successful life against the obstacles of everyday life.
How to become successful? 5 tips how to become successful
1. Find what you do best: Oprah Winfrey, the famous American talk show host and billionaire, calls it “the power of service”. It is not about service. but about self-discovery and personality development. It is about your personal performance.
Ask yourself: What are your talents that make you stand out?. What are you particularly good at? Concentrate on this. This tip sounds somehow familiar to you? “Do what you love and you will succeed.”Because it’s the passion for something that gets the necessary few percentages out of you.
These percentages are what will make you run faster and farther than your competitors. Why? Because the bottom line is that you enjoy what you are doing. When your legs are aching, your brain is boiling and your lungs are burning after 12 hours, it’s you who will keep going for another 3 hours.
2. Discipline: No matter how good you are at something – without the ability to control your own will (the inner pig), the talent of the century remains just that: a talent. A prophecy that never became reality. Self-discipline turns an average person into a serious competitor. And from a gifted talent a winner.
Only the control of the will turns your ability, your talent, into a real achievement. Therefore: Only discipline guarantees (sustainable) success.
The good: Discipline is like a muscle. If yours is weak, you can train it to peak performance.
3. No more excuses: Successful people know that only they are responsible for their lives. Means: Their personal starting point doesn’t matter, their own weaknesses don’t matter. What you have influence over is how you handle the situation. Realizing that you are responsible for what happens next is: first scary, then liberating. Because that’s the way to become successful. Excuses limit your ability to create. They prevent you from growing personally and professionally. Legendary computer science professor Randy Pausch writes in his book Last Lecture – The Lessons of My Life (Goldmann Verlag, at 9 euros): “Obstacles are there for a reason. Obstacles are not there to hold us back. They give us the opportunity to show how much we want something. The obstacles are there to stop the people who don’t want it enough. The obstacles are there to stop the others.”
4. It doesn’t always have to be perfect: We understand you, you are a perfectionist. You know that many things can be improved. But: Don’t fiddle your ideas to death. Perfectionism can very quickly become the enemy of progress. Wanting to make everything perfect is also a good excuse for not doing something (see point 4). Better: Proceed according to the favorite motto of Facebook designer Ben Berry: “better done than perfect” (usable is better than perfect). Because it’s not about punching average clutter into the world. It’s about your work seeing the light of day. So you also get the chance to do better next time.
5. Never give up: Once you’ve followed all 4 tips, there’s only one necessary condition left: success comes to those who have perseverance. Success does not come overnight, but is hard work. Believe in yourself and your abilities, keep a positive mindset and never give up. Because what matters in life is not how much you can dish out, but how much you can take in.
The strategy that makes you successful: Check your progress
You ask yourself: Why am I not successful in life? The answer: You are not progressing. You are stagnant because of comfort. Measuring success can get you out of surrendering to the daily grind. We become what we measure.
Success is not a pipe dream, but an objective. Goals are achieved through strategic measures. Measuring your own performance on a regular basis is an effective way to monitor your (non) progress.
But it is not only effective, it is also necessary. Development is power consuming and painful. That is why most do not do it. And that is why many people live below their means and are not successful.
You want to do 100 push-ups in a certain period of time? Or you want to expand your customer base for your professional self-employment and need to make 10 new contacts every day to do so? Measure your progress.
Tip: There are different measurement methods for this. You can check your progress every day with the so-called Seinfeld method (named after the US comedian Jerry Seinfeld). For this you can go to writersstore.com download a sheet of paper. With it you determine how often you want to do an activity. Example: Your goal is to exercise every day for at least 30 minutes. Each time you do this you check one box. This creates a chain or at least a pattern of crossed boxes. The goal: not to break this pattern through inaction. This creates both pressure and the opportunity to visually check your performance.
But remember: to change your daily routine and build a new routine, the brain needs time. Stick to it for at least 30 days. After that, the activity will cost less effort – it will have become almost automatic and integrated into your daily routine. With this you are on the way to success.
Conclusion: Success begins in the head
To be successful in life means something different for everyone. However, the path to success is similar everywhere: Success begins in the head. Follow our 5 tips to put your idea of a successful life into action now.